You Teach Others How to Treat You By What You Allow
That title is a bold statement, am I right? But think about it. Have you ever allowed a behavior to continue, not stopping it, and so it continued over and over again until you wondered what to do?
Honestly, that’s pretty common. No one really takes the time to teach us how to set boundaries with others, let alone what we want those boundaries to be. That’s where relationship coaching comes in! We take the time to sit down and review your life, what you like and don’t like, and figure out what those boundaries should be. Then we work on how to set and reinforce those boundaries.
If you allow someone to speak to you in an angry or dismissive tone then that’s what they’ll continue doing. Can you imagine if you, instead, said, “I don’t like the way your talking to me. I’m leaving.” or “You’re speaking to me disrespectfully. I am not continuing this conversation until you speak to me with respect.”
So let’s unpack this a bit more….
Have you ever thought about the kind of message you send to the world about how you want to be treated? Take a moment right now and think about this. The way you treat yourself—your boundaries, your self-talk, and your self-care—sets the standard for how others will interact with you. It’s like a silent invitation for others to follow your lead.
When you respect your own boundaries and honor your needs, you’re showing others what’s acceptable. On the flip side, if you’re constantly neglecting your needs or being overly critical of yourself, you might unintentionally signal that it’s okay for others to do the same.
Let’s Make This Practical: Start small. Practice saying “no” to something that doesn’t align with your values or well-being. It might feel uncomfortable at first, but each time you do it, you’re reinforcing your self-worth. When you treat yourself with kindness and respect, you’ll notice how others begin to mirror that behavior back to you.
If you need help with this process or want to explore your boundaries, consider booking a session…